夕夕 丽鹿 糸糸 II - 前一部的延续篇

多麗絲

向魔女的部落格借来贴：

       女人感叹男人：

                   有才华的长得丑，  长得帅的挣钱少，  挣钱多的不顾家，  顾家的没出息，  
                   有出息的不浪漫，  会浪漫的靠不住，  靠得住的又窝囊，  不窝囊没才华。



       男人感叹女人：

                   漂亮的不下厨房，  下厨房的不温柔，  温柔的没主见，  有主见的没女人味，
                   有女人味的乱花钱，不乱花钱的不时尚，时尚的不放心，  放心的没法看。



男人女人们，看着办吧！

咖啡豆

嗯~嗯，有意思。
豆就可能是。。。不漂亮、不下厨房、不温柔、没主见、没女人味、乱花钱、不时尚、让人不放心、 没眼看的家伙，豆母一直这么说

多麗絲

回   咖啡豆

你说你不漂亮（漂亮的不下厨房），即是说你下厨房噜？
但你又说你不下厨房（漂亮的不下厨房），那又回过头说自己漂亮噜？

总结：你漂亮又下厨房

你说你不温柔（温柔的没主见），也说你没女人味（有主见的没女人味），即是说你有主见噜？
但你又说你没主见（温柔的没主见），那又回过头说自己温柔噜？
还说自己乱花钱（有女人味的乱花钱）...

总结：你温柔又有主见且有女人味

你说你不时尚（时尚的不放心），即是说很放心噜？
但你又说你让人不放心（时尚的不放心），那又回过头说自己时尚噜？
还说自己没法看（放心的没法看）...

总结：你时尚又让人很放心


大总结：豆母果然是疼爱自己的子女的。

ktin_268

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哈哈哈。。忍不住拍掌
最后一句形容得最贴切。。。

多麗絲

来，拍拍手~~

多麗絲

Any expert will tell you that networking is one of the best ways to advance your career, and it's also a good source of support for everyday job concerns. Employers, especially those with good diversity programs, also recognize the value of networking, and there are official -- as well as unofficial -- networks for virtually every group.

"A lot of people of color find these networks especially important," says Cornelia Gamlem, president of the GEMS Group, a human resources consulting firm in Herndon, Virginia. "They can be a kind of balance in understanding whether a situation is unique or if it's something other people have gone through as well. [Networks] can help people avoid that feeling of being isolated and overcome problems all on their own."

But remember that how you network is just as important as whether you network. Here are some rules to network by:

Get an Early Start
The sooner you start creating a network, the faster you'll progress in your career. Many professional societies have student chapters in colleges and universities. Making connections early will give you a head start on your job search. Keep your eyes open for networking opportunities as soon as you've landed a job.

Look Before You Leap
"Be careful of whom you ally yourself with," warns Mary Jane Sinclair, president of MJS Associates in Morristown, New Jersey. "They may be using you to advance an issue." Sinclair uses an example of a young college grad who joined an in-company women's network. However, rather than advancing the members' cause, this network was more interested in taking on management. "This woman was viewed by management as a troublemaker," Sinclair says. Once you've taken a job, carefully find the networks that will be most beneficial to you and your career.

If at First You Don't Succeed, Try Again
Unfortunately, there isn't always an obvious network to join. For instance, if you're an African American woman in a sea of white colleagues, it may not be easy to align yourself with others in the company. See if there's a local professional organization with African American members. Or seek out people in your community. Don't just limit yourself to racial or gender categories.

Cast a Wide Net
"Look for support wherever you find it," Sinclair says. "Networking really works best when the group's common interest isn't just race or gender, but the success of each member in the group." Establishing a broad network enables you to turn to different groups, depending on your professional challenges. "Without a broad-based network, there's no one to turn to in a time of crisis," Sinclair says. "The broader you cast your net, the broader your catch will be."

Ellen Alcorn

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Creating a structured plan and process is vital to any successfulventure, whether launching a new business, orchestrating anorganizational turnaround or managing your job search networkingcampaign. It is critical that you clearly identify your networkcontacts, develop a personalized networking plan and build anadministrative process to manage it all.


Before starting to create a two-tiered networking system, rememberthe most important concept underlying the networking process: Ask yournetwork contacts for their help, not for a job. People are delighted tohelp, but few will have jobs to offer you.

Tier-One Contacts
These are the hottest prospects and people you know best -- otherexecutives and senior managers, current and past colleagues andmanagers, vendors, consultants, recruiters with whom you have anestablished relationship, bankers and venture capitalists.
Process: Your initial contact will likely be viaphone -- a quick call announcing you're in the job market and wouldappreciate advice, assistance, recommendations or referrals.
Follow-Up One: At the end of each conversation,tell your contacts you'd like to send them a resume to have on file andask if they prefer mail, fax or email. Immediately forward your resumewith a brief, friendly cover letter, thanking them for any help theycan offer and mentioning the positions and industries in which you areinterested.
Follow-Up Two: If you have not heard back fromcontacts within three weeks, call and inquire if they've reviewed yourresume and if they have any recommendations.

Tier-Two Contacts
These are people you know casually. This list will largely fall intothe same categories as the tier-one contacts, but you do not know theseindividuals as well. They may include commercial Realtors anddevelopers, local newspaper publishers, attorneys, accountants,investors, Chamber of Commerce directors, state licensing personnel andothers who know what's happening within a particular business communityor have clients who may be interested in your talent.
Process: Your initial contact will most likely be50 percent by phone and 50 percent by mail or email, depending on howcomfortable you are in these relationships and how easy it is toconnect with each individual. Whenever possible, it's best if theinitial contact is a phone call, allowing you to establish a morepersonal relationship. However, if that's not possible, mail or emailis fine. Your conversation will be more formal than with your tier-onecontacts, but your objective is the same -- to quickly communicate thatyou're in the job market and would appreciate their help.
Follow-Up One: If you've called a contact, followup immediately by sending a resume. If you've mailed or emailed acontact, include your resume. Also forward a cover letter including thepositions and industries in which you are interested and several ofyour most notable achievements.
Follow-Up Two: If you have not heard back fromcontacts within three weeks, call or email them and inquire if they'vereviewed your resume and if they have any recommendations.

Managing the Process
Once you've developed your list of contacts and determined how toconnect with each individual, set up a paperwork system to track allyour calls, contacts and follow-up commitments. Referred to as yournetworking management system, it can be PC-based, on paper or acombination of both.
Here's a tried-and-true, if not old-school, method: Create a 3-inchby 5-inch index card for each contact, noting how the contact was made,what information you provided, any follow-up commitments you'vescheduled and the person's complete contact information. If you hearback from a specific contact, set up a page in your active-leadthree-ring binder where you record all communications, referrals andactions related to that contact. Obviously, this system can easily beadapted for your PC using Access or any contact management system.
Be forewarned: No matter how sharp your memory, if you do not keeptrack of your networking campaign, you will get lost in the process,forget important commitments and potentially lose great opportunities.

by Wendy S. Enelow

多麗絲

在佛法的修行方法中，有一種「因緣觀」，能幫助我們轉變觀念、破除執著，做出正確的決定，避免被七情六欲所困。

當我們面對各種誘惑或刺激時，無論產生的感受是痛苦或快樂，都要馬上想到，這些境界以及伴隨而來的感覺，只不過是物質彼此接觸後所產生的一種效果，並非真實的存在。例如，當我們看到一朵花時，不要立刻判斷自己喜不喜歡它，因為花僅是花而已，要將它獨立在所有價值判斷之外，才不會產生誘惑、刺激的問題。可是如果我們賦予它價值判斷，當「美」的念頭出現後，心想：「這個顏色好美！我從來沒有看過這麼美的花！」單純的物質現象就變成誘惑，因為有了「喜歡」的念頭，就會想將它據為己有，一連串的煩惱就會接連而來。所以，當我們看到一朵花時，念頭就要止於「這是一朵花」，而不要有好惡的分別。

有時我們以為自己喜歡某些事物，事實上卻不一定真的如此。有一年春天我到英國旅行，看見路旁花團錦簇，我覺得這樣的景色很美、很有意思，但是看多了以後，就漸漸覺得不稀奇，也就視而不見了！等我到達禪修道場後，那是一個乾乾淨淨的地方，只有草、沒有花，所以當有人摘了幾朵花插在瓶子裡、放在餐桌上時，我又注意到花了。於是我心想：「我究竟喜不喜歡花呢？」然後我再看看它，瞭解到其實並沒有所謂的喜不喜歡，從因緣的角度來看，花就只是花，除此之外，沒有什麼特別的意義。

任何事物都是因緣所構成，有因、有緣，當各方面條件聚合之後就會發生；當因緣不具足時，自然就消散了。一朵花也是如此，當它漸漸枯萎之後，就會被當成垃圾丟掉，此時已經沒有美不美的問題，只是一種自然現象而已。《紅樓夢》裡的林黛玉，把自己的生命和花朵聯想在一起，因為有這種聯想，所以產生了煩惱與執著。當她看到花朵掉落在地上，就會觸景傷情，覺得花朵好可憐。相反地，如果能夠獨立看待這些自然現象，花開時就是開，花落時就是落，知道一切都是因緣，就不會產生煩惱。

所以，聚是因緣、散也是因緣，所有的一切無論好壞，都是因緣。只要從因緣的角度來看待，世界上就沒有任何事物能夠讓我們產生煩惱、執著而感到痛苦了，當然，這是需要不斷地練習。例如，當我們看到了自己很喜愛，但並不是很需要的東西時，馬上用因緣觀來看，心想這個東西原本就是這樣，並沒有什麼特別的意義，我現在也不需要它，如此便不會受誘惑了。

當我們能夠分清楚自己和外在事物之間的主客關係，不讓自己與它產牛關聯性的想像，就不會有太多的執著。走進百貨公司時，看到很多美麗的服裝以及化妝品，但是我既不能穿、也不能用，所以它們和我沒有關係，既然和自己沒有關係，就沒有誘惑的問題。

分得清楚「沒有關係」和「有關係」就是因緣觀，但有些人不明白這個道理，有時只是覺得好玩，就想把自己不需要的東西帶回家。例如，有些人覺得飛機上的雜誌不錯，就把它帶回家，但帶回家之後卻不一定有時間閱讀。或是逛書店時，看到每一本書都喜歡，結果買了一大堆書回家，往書架上一放，從此就不聞不問。

一本書要從頭到尾看完才算是真正擁有，否則買再多書也都和你「沒有關係」。但我們總習慣向外攀緣，看到任何美好、漂亮的事物就想擁有，才會造成這麼多苦惱。因此，唯有明白因緣的道理，分清楚自己和外在事物之間的關係，才能讓我們免除誘惑及七情六欲所帶來的痛苦。


来源：圣严法师

多麗絲

愛一個人就要專心一點


    月华终于和大伟分开了。

    最初月华还不知道如何开口告诉他，因为大伟很爱很爱她，但是月华早就不想和他在一起了。倒不是大伟对自己不好，可光对自己好有什么用啊！

    大伟木讷得很，从不知道甜言蜜语，不会在月华生日时送她玫瑰请她吃一顿烛光晚餐，家里的菜做得再好吃再实惠，可是不浪漫啊！对，大伟是一个根本不懂浪漫的人！

    其实最主要的原因还不在这些，而是大伟穷，自己穷家里也穷。为了供房子成天省吃俭用抠门得很，买衣服买商场里削价的，就连吃的菜也很少买上市菜。没有大房子没有车子，什么都没有，周围的小姐妹远胜于自己。不要说女人虚荣，哪个女人不渴望过更好的生活？但大伟什么都没有，除了有一颗爱自己的心，什么都不能给。

    不过，启明就不同了，他高大且有一双动情的眼睛，月华知道那双眼睛之所以这样动情是因为自己。启明会说很多很多的笑话给自己听，把自己逗得前仰后合，也会轻轻地说情话，说得自己心里甜蜜蜜，更会有巧克力、鲜花、烛光晚餐。启明是一个很浪漫的人，会带月华看日出日落，听音乐喝咖啡，会买各种各样的礼物哄月华开心。和启明在一起，月华真的感到很幸福。

    心的天平不知道从什么时候起向启明偏斜了许多。越发觉得大伟的种种不好，就连以前最欣赏他烧的一手好也觉得很是不屑了。这些哪里有烛光晚餐的情调让人怦然心动。只是月华不知道自己该如何开口，因为大伟爱了自己五年呵护了自己五年，五年不短的时间啊！五年的情爱画上句号，就这样离开大伟，月华觉得不忍 。大伟说过可以什么都没有就是不能没有她，大伟是在结婚那天晚上喝醉了说这话的，月华知道他说的是真的，她确定他是真的爱她。

    分手是大伟提出来的。命运就是这么巧，世界这么大，月华和启明特地远离了市区躲到那么偏僻的小镇幽会，竟然也会被大伟撞见。大伟去那个小镇找一个老同学为月华要些菊花给她做菊花枕头。这段日子，月华睡得不好，老叫着头痛，听说菊花枕头可以治疗偏头痛，大伟就特地到这个郊区小镇找老同学要点菊花做枕头，谁知竟在路过小岛咖啡屋时隔着玻璃窗看见了依偎在一起的月华和启明。

    大伟的心很痛，但是他没有冲动，也没有歇斯底里地爆发，只是默默地转身，依然平静地去同学那儿讨了一大袋菊花，然后回家。倒是月华和启明惊惧得不晓得怎么办才好，启明忐忑不安坐立不安，月华在一阵慌张之后下定决心，人家启明有钱待我好、舍得为我花钱嘛！看不住老婆，是你大伟自己没有用，怨不得旁人。

    回家，是摊牌的时刻了。月华等待着暴风雨的来临。大伟只是轻轻地问："你想好了吗？真的想好了吗？" 月华低头不语。大伟仰天长叹了一声："好吧，好吧，你想好了，我不拦你，我放你走。" 最后这句话大伟是哽咽着说出来的。

    大伟做了最后一顿晚餐给月华，每一盘菜都是月华的最爱，每一盘菜里都浸满了大伟的深情。月华突然不想离开大伟了，启明虽然会和自己花前月下却绝不肯放弃自己的喜好。启明总是按照他自己的喜好点菜，明知道月华胃不好不能吃辣，却从不肯迁就月华，更别提为月华亲自下厨烧一顿可口的饭菜了。想着想着月华的眼睛湿润了。

    但是大伟却不肯再给月华机会了："对不起，月，我可以忍受你的坏脾气不讲理，不会做家务，一切的一切，我都可以包容。因为我爱你。但是我不能接受你和别的人好，唯独这一点，我不能接受。月，对不起……"

    分开了，结束了。另一段感情也很快随之结束了。

    因为朝夕的相处，启明身上有着月华更多难以忍受的缺陷。启明钱挣得虽多但花得更快，人家是"月光族"，可他不到月中就口袋光光了。长期吃麻辣的启明不肯为她痛着的胃着想，睡不着启明不肯念文章给她听，头痛得睡不着觉启明不会给她轻轻柔柔地按太阳穴……枕着大伟送的菊花枕头，月华哭得很伤心。

    三年过去了，月华随朋友们一起去看大伟。不是夫妻了，毕竟也是同学一场，高中三年，就连后来复读都是一个学校一个班。听说大伟的孩子满月，自然应该去道贺一番。本不想去的，但想着不去反而更显着自己心虚没有忘记他似的，月华不想别人看见自己的落寞。大伟的妻子很高兴，没有人告诉她面前的月华是她亲爱丈夫的前妻。她很感谢大伟老同学的热情，执意要留他们吃饭。自然是大伟下的厨，看着系着围裙的大伟忙前忙后，月华的眼睛有些湿润，这样的幸福本来是应该属于自己的啊！自己被所谓的浪漫冲昏了头。席间，大家吃得很痛快，都夸大伟的手艺好。突然，朋友瑞雪冷不丁冒了一句："大伟，我记得你以前的拿手好菜是椒盐排骨啊，怎么现在这排骨烧得这么没有味，倒是鱼烧得好极了。没有记错的话，你最讨厌鱼味，你一直说腥气，在你的菜谱里是没有鱼的呀！"大伟宠溺地揉揉妻子的短发："没有办法，老婆大人爱吃嘛！一顿不吃鱼就把小嘴噘着，我心疼，只好学做了。"妻子害羞而满足地笑，扭了一下大伟的胳膊，咕哝了一句："不要脸！"月华的心一痛，自己一向不喜欢吃鱼，那个椒盐排骨曾经是自己的最爱啊，转眼新人换旧人，桌上的美味也由椒盐排骨换成了糖醋鱼。责怪不了大伟，因为这手中的幸福是自己没有好好珍惜放弃的。

    走在回家的路上，月色如水，满街的霓虹闪烁，诱惑着一对对亲密的青年男女，月华的目光不为所动，却是一栋栋家居房子里透射出的温暖的光刺痛了她的眼睛也刺痛了她的心。在这个万家灯火的温馨时刻，她却再也找不到那个曾经深爱她的男人了。近处是一家餐厅的广告牌，大大的牌子上只有这样几个字"吃遍天下还是回家"，远处，传来迪克牛仔歇斯底里痛彻心扉的歌声"有多少爱可以重来，有多少人愿意等待……"

    没有谁的爱可以重来，也没有谁愿意等待，错过了便是永远的错过了!



不要错放了幸福温暖的手

    往往许多人在抉择伴侣时，容易东想西想，不知所措，就是因为害怕一时做错决定，看错人，造成终生的遗憾。

    诺贝尔文学奖得主萧伯纳说：“此时此刻在地球上，约有两万个人适合当你的人生伴侣，就看你先遇到哪一个，如果在第二个理想伴侣出现之前，你已经跟前一个人发展
出相知相惜、互相信赖的深层关系，那后者就会变成你的好朋友，但是若你跟前一个人没有培养出深层关系，感情就容易动摇、变心，直到你与这些理想伴侣候选人的其中一位拥有稳固的深情，才是幸福的开始，漂泊的结束。

   爱上一个人不需要靠努力，只需要靠“际遇”，是上天的安排，但是“持续地爱一个人”就要靠“努力”，在爱情的经营中，顺畅运 转的要素就是沟通、体谅、包容与自制 (面临诱惑有所自制)。有许多人总是? “际遇”所迷惑与苦恼，意念不停、欲念不断、争逐不散，而忘了培养经营感情的能力才是幸福的关键。

   所以不要去追问到底谁才是我的Mr.Right，而是n问说在眼前的伴侣关系中，我能努力到什么程度、成长到什么程度，若没有培养出经营幸福的能力，就算真的Mr.Right出现在你身边，幸福依然会错过的，而活在犹疑与遗憾当中，这不就是许多“爱情虚无症”的遭遇与心态吗？

   若你此刻已有一位长久相伴的伴侣，不要再随便三心二意地犹疑了，我们往往不易察觉感情中的一个陷阱，就是“近亲生慢侮”，也就是经济学中的铁律“边际效益递减法则”，跟你在一起越久的人，就越容易麻木与忽视，而新鲜的“际遇”总是那么动人可爱。

   在感情对待中，难免有摩擦与无心的伤害，而且论得罪自己的次数累加起来最多的人，当然是跟我们在一起最久、最亲近的人。而新欢呢，又还没开始有得罪你的机会，再加上他的刻意讨好，所以新欢怎么看怎么可爱，旧爱怎么看怎么讨厌。但别忘了，新欢身上总是有不确定的未知数， 旧爱身上就是有难得的熟悉感、确定感、信赖感。千万不要随便在偶然的“际遇”中迷失了自己，错放了幸福温暖的手。

   所以萧伯纳的话，是要提醒情人不要太钻牛角尖于寻觅那唯一，应该把精神用在学会经营幸福的能力上，同时也提醒我们“弱水三千只取一瓢饮”若有幸遇到了难得的伴侣，就不要再三心二意了，因为我们永远不知道一生何时会遇到两万个其中的几个，所以要知福惜福、活在当下。



别让那只鸟飞了
    我和先生结婚 10 周年那天，一位移居加拿大的朋友给我寄来一份礼物→『一张游戏光盘』，名字叫《别让那只鸟飞了》。我没有玩游戏的习惯，因此就把它当做一份纪念品收藏了起来。

    一天， 8 岁的儿子在我书房里乱翻，发现这张游戏光盘。玩过之后，儿子对我说：“妈，这里面有一只鸟，弄不好就会从窗口里飞走，一飞走，游戏就砸了。”在儿子的提醒下，我打开了电脑，执行那张光盘。这时我才知道，原来它是一张针对成人而开发的大型游戏软件，总投资 8,500万美元。游戏打开之后，映入眼帘的是一栋具有皇家风范的豪宅。豪宅里各项生活设施应有尽有。游戏者进去之后，可以以主人的身份在这里生活。你想打高尔夫，可以去高尔夫球场；你想看书，可以走进书房；想喝咖啡，可以让仆人给你送去；想举行舞会，可以邀请包括马丹娜在内的 100 位世界级影视明星；想去旅行吗？车子就在门口；上了车，沿着门口的路，你可以去埃及、法国、中国等世界任何一个地方；假若你有一位情人，还可以秘密地约他出去，到附近的海滨或南美的哥伦比亚大草原。总之，在这里，你可以随心所欲地生活，可以按照自己的意愿想怎样就怎样。但与现实不同的是，这栋豪宅里有一只鸟在飞，它嘴巴上叼着一只篮子，从客厅飞向卧室，又从卧室飞向书房，飞向餐厅，飞向豪宅的每一房间。这只鸟有一个特点：不论你是外出旅行，还是在家读书，或是在公司处理商务，你都不能忘记往这只鸟的篮子里放东西。假如你忘了，到了一定的时间，它就会从某个窗口里飞出去，一旦出现这种情况，屏幕上就会出现这一个画面：豪宅倒塌，野草丛生；夕阳下， 一个孤独的身影慢慢地消失在黑暗中。那么，该向那只篮子里面放些什么东西，才不会使鸟儿飞走、豪宅倒塌呢？游戏里有一份菜单，那上面有包括金钱、花朵、微笑、哭泣、亲吻在内的 152种日常用品和日常行为。它是赫利克斯公司耗时 3 年，从全球 50 万对金婚老人那里征集的，每一件东西，每一个行为都按照这 50 万对金婚老人票选得票的多少，被赋予了不同的时间价值，有的代表一个月，有的只代表 3 分钟。 至于哪种代表一个月，哪种代表3 分钟，上面没有明说，得完全由游戏者根据自己对它们的认知来判定。

    自从打开这个游戏，我就被它迷住了。只要有空，我就要玩上一阵。起初，由于不知该向鸟儿的篮子里放些什么，所以那栋豪宅经常被我弄得从屏幕上消失。有一次，实在是不知该怎样侍候它，就随便挑了一个吻放在篮子里。结果大出意外，它让我大书房里看了整整一下午的书，有几次它甚至还把篮子放在我的书桌上，然后自己跳到里面打一个盹。  还有一次，我送给它一个亲密的拥抱和惜别，就去了墨西哥的古玛雅城市遗址奇琴伊察。这次更出乎我的意料，半个月后，我回来了， 鸟儿不仅没有飞走，当我到达家门口时，它还热情地迎接了我。这到底是怎样的一只鸟儿呢？我送它金钱，它只在家里待 3 分钟，我送它一枝花朵，它竟可以待上 3 个小时。后来我终于发现，它是一只婚姻鸟，并且它有许多不起眼的救星。一个轻吻，一个微笑，一个拥抱， 一句关切的话语，一份小小的礼物，一段短暂的离别，都可以把它留下。现在我已能非常熟练地玩这个游戏，并且越玩越觉得它不再是一个游戏，而是50万对金婚老人在婚姻生活中的感悟和发现。

    它告诉我，一句微不足道的赞许，一杯顺手递去的热茶，一枝 10 块钱的玫瑰， 这些日常生活中微不足道的东西，具有滋养婚姻的神奇力量。前不久，一位朋友结婚，我把这张光盘送作礼物，转赠了出去。我想，我应该让更多的人从这个游戏中，悟出婚姻中的一些道理。

[ 本帖最后由 多麗絲 于 21-6-2008 05:08 PM 编辑 ]

咖啡豆

回复 1383# 多麗絲 的帖子
多丽丝真的是能言善道，佩服！佩服！
要表来见见豆母 ~

回复 1384# ktin_268 的帖子
你认同多丽丝的歪理？ ~
见过豆的，多丽丝说的一点都不真，对不？

回复 1385# 多麗絲 的帖子
你口才了得嘛，当然要鼓掌咯 ~

最近啊~我忙到 。。。
破大腿上又闹便扭了 ~不知名虫虫来犯

ktin_268

回复 1390# 咖啡豆 的帖子

看心。。
看行为。。

我觉得有

多麗絲

回   豆

能言善辩倒不然，我在学习观察入微、细心聆听、客观分析。
所以喔，你看，其实啊，那些短短的几句，其实就说了很多。
我（不记得从哪里了）看过这么一句话：“没说出来的比说出来的说得更多”。

回   ktin

嘿嘿，给我五!
事实是不容雄辩滴啦！~

多麗絲

    原来是一位贫苦农民的儿子。曾宪梓小的时候，冬天连鞋都穿不上。全国解放后，他依靠助学金念完了中学和大学。

    然而，曾宪梓并没有被困境吓倒，本着“正直做人、勤俭创业”的训条，用顽强的意志力走出了一条职业辉煌之路。

　　起步阶段，曾宪梓拿出平时省吃俭用积攒的6000港元，腾出自家租住的房子，办起了领带生产厂。他和妻子两人用手工缝制低档的领带。尽管夫妻俩起早摸黑，干得很辛苦，生意却不好。经过仔细考虑，他决定改做高级领带。曾宪梓买来法国、瑞士的高档领带进行研究仿制，生产出一批高级领带。为打开销路，他下了狠心，把第一批产品在一家商店免费供应顾客。由于花色、款式对头，曾宪梓拿出的这批产品很受欢迎。很快，他制作的领带便在香港小有名气，后来变得十分走俏。1970年，他正式注册成立了自己的公司。第二年，他在九龙买了一块地皮，建起了一个初具规模的领带生产厂。

　　曾宪梓是一个有远大志向的人，他心中的目标是要创世界名牌。他多次到西欧领带厂参观，学习他们的制作工艺和经营方法，然后集众家之长，引进先进的生产设备和严格的管理、检验制度，而逐渐占领了香港领带市场，成为男人们庄重、高雅、潇洒的象征。在发展和巩固香港市场的同时，曾宪梓还拓展海外市场，向东南亚国家进军。他亲自到新加坡考察，创办分公司，寻找合作伙伴。获得成功后又迅速把市场扩展到印尼、马来西亚、泰国等国家，迄今为止，金利来在这些国家和地区的大型客户数目已超过上千个。

　　作为一个中国人，曾宪梓有一颗可贵的中国心。为了支持故乡建设，他在梅县与一家企业合资，创办了另外一家公司，并把自己从这个企业所得到的利润全部献给了梅县，用作当地大学的办学经费及其他公益事业费用。他深知教育事业和体育事业对于一个国家和民族发展的重要性，所以多次捐资兴教。据不完全统计，他在十几年中的捐款达到了二百多项，总额高达四亿多元，为海外华侨、港澳同胞关心和参加祖国和家乡建设起到了极大的鼓励和促进作用。曾宪梓说：“知识很重要，做人更重要。人应一辈子勤俭诚信，做一个有益于社会的人。我把产业留给我的后代，只富了我一家；我要用我的产业支持祖国的事业，为促进整个国家更加富裕、强盛尽绵薄之力。”

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这种故事，耳熟能详。
很多成功的例子，多半都有以上的经历。
今天这位，我在这之前并不知道对方是谁。
然而，就因为一直都念错他所创下的品牌，直到昨天小弟跟我说了他在新加坡给人纠正过来才知道其真正读法下搜寻一番才知道个大概。
他的品牌，中文叫“金利来”。
我们普遍看到的Goldlion。
我一直都以为是gold lion。
昨天才知道，它正确的发音是 goldl ion。

我借这个例子：
要加油！

多麗絲

新同事上任，我悄悄地问：什么时候我可以下来？
收到的回应是：先让新同事上手。
我回：哦。

然后思绪回转。
单纯地进来，很好奇怎么一个论坛可以这么丰富。
有好多好多不同的地方。
我寻找自己喜欢的地方，扎营，开始一点一滴去累积我所要表达，我所能分享的东西。
戏剧、文学、生活、摄影。

然后不知怎的，当起了版主。
然后又不知怎样，当起了超版。
再然后，从超版上退下来。
到现在，我就要退下版主了。

这段路，不能说很长，但却让我体验不少。
交的朋友、看的东西、学的事情、懂的事务......

谢谢，
所有在我懵懂的时候牵着我的人；
所有在我努力的时候打击我的人；
所有在我失意的时候鼓励我的人....

你们的每一个对待，都是珍贵的。

多麗絲

我发现：不管迷不迷信，人一旦到了一个感觉到迷茫的阶段时，很自然的就想要找寻方向。
而可以满足探头去窥找未来的指引之处，就是人们会去接触的地方。
占卜，拥有一定的吸引力在。
过后不见得记得当时后的预测是什么，但是它所给予的力量，不管是为了要扭转还是藉作鼓励，都扮演了一个很好的角色。
只要不迷信，占卜是一个很好的激励师。



我的问题是：事业和钱财
（可见这是我现阶段最耗心力精神的部份）

ktin_268

原帖由 多麗絲 于 20-6-2008 12:04 PM 发表

然后思绪回转。
单纯地进来，很好奇怎么一个论坛可以这么丰富。
有好多好多不同的地方。
我寻找自己喜欢的地方， ...

哈哈哈。。。
網絡因人而豐富。

曾幾何時，認識了excite chat
然後msn spaces,然後cari/forums

際遇、時間與環境旁觀這離合。
見不到面的地方，全凴文字溝通。
自由選擇，先入爲主還是客觀看待。

早上的時候看到有人問：
不知道明年的這個時候我們在哪裏？

哈哈哈。。。看看吧。

多麗絲

关于我自己： Ten of Coins
The inheritor of prestige and influence is also required to meet certain obligations.
The card in the Self position reveals aspects of how you perceive yourself right now.
With the Ten of Coins in this position, you are the proper inheritor of a family tradition or ethic that makes you an important person in your community. This underlying heritage may have so thoroughly permeated your history and development that you have gone to special lengths to be distinct from it, to avoid becoming swallowed by it.
Living up to this legacy can feel like a burden, but it is yours to bear both literally and karmically and it would be wrong to reject it. Obviously this situation provides you with stability and security, but it also creates special obligations. Maturity and sobriety are great allies to a person who has been given so much in terms of money, education, skills or responsibilities.

现况： Ace of Swords
Your unique comprehension of the situation can help clear up confusion that could otherwise jeopardize progress.
The card that lands in the Situation position refers to social or circumstantial factors which could be affecting your life at this time.
With the Ace of Swords in this position, circumstances indicate that the path to your destination twists and turns in a bewildering way. Your insight, however, can penetrate and make sense of the confusion.
You possess an outlook or vision that can harmonize with whatever competing interests and needs present themselves. Ultimately, it is up to you to reveal the big picture, point out the middle path, and reconcile the polarities. You are aware of what the next step is. Continue to focus on it solely without letting yourself or others be distracted.

过去： The Emperor
You have gained respect from your community and a solid sense of self-esteem.
Thecard in the Recent Past position refers to events that are justdeparting, recently influential but now diminishing in power.
With the Emperor in this position, it seems you have beenriding a wave of authority and empowerment that drew others intoalliance with you. It allowed you a higher degree of leverage andesteem than normal.
This period has probably passed, but therespect and authority with which you are still treated shows how muchimpact those events had. Your living memory of this period allows youto continue to tap into that sense of yourself in a focused andoptimistic mode.

挑战： Six of Coins
Give a hand up to those who are willing to improve their situation, but don't nurture dependence.
The card that lands in the Challenges/Opportunities position refers to ways that you can turn obstacles into stepping stones.      
TheSix of Coins in this position bids you to find a way to be helpfulwithout creating dependence. It is a challenge to detach oneself enoughfrom the outcome of one's own efforts to promote self-sufficiency andsuccess among others.
In some situations people needassistance or support, and it is good to help them. But if we spend ourenergy doing for those who can help themselves, we are actuallyperforming a disservice. Your best contribution will not result fromsaving or rescuing others. Your best contribution lies in encouragingand challenging others to rise above their current limits. See if thereis a way you can create incentives for higher performance.

未来：
King of Coins
A generous leadership position is yours for the taking.
The cardin the Near Future position indicates which way the wind is blowingwith regard to your situation. If you follow the Advice card, however,you can improve on or neutralize tendencies.
The King of Coins in this position indicates that you willbe recognized for your leadership potential. Your burning desire todevelop and increase your influence is a good thing.
It willfeel good to take your place in the company of other accomplished soulsand be recognized as a peer. You will also find greater opportunitiesto succeed as a result of such associations. The respect and honor yougain from people as intelligent as yourself is worth its weight in gold.

更高的力量： Ace of Wands
You may suddenly find yourself in the spotlight taking a stand, speaking out and inspiring others.
Thecard in the Higher Power position reflects the broader perspective andinfluence of your conscience, Guardian Angel, inner wisdom.
When the Ace of Wands presents in this position, it's asif your Higher Self is handing you the torch and saying, "Please keepthis light aloft for a little while. We won't make you hold it long.Another runner will be sent to collect it from you. While you wait andhold the torch, be of good cheer."
You are helping the worldby standing forth in this way. Don't be surprised when all theattention is focused on you as you speak out and motivate others. Thisis a great opening; you will finally have the opportunity to revealyour strengths and courage.

基础： Wheel of Fortune
Your understanding of life's ephemeral nature makes you a potential leader.
The card in the Foundation position points to influences from your personal history, your roots and background.      
TheWheel of Fortune in this position suggests that you are familiar withthe rhythmic rise and fall of all things. Perhaps you have spent aportion of your life studying this dynamic. This gives you theopportunity to determine patterns and be able to second-guess them. Youmay have learned to be comfortable with the shadow of chaos as itrepeatedly impinges on what you think should be orderly. You have cometo terms with the truth of impermanence -- everything shifts from underyour feet just as you get your balance. This gives you a greatadvantage and makes you a stabilizing force in difficult times.

长远的潜能： The Hermit
Stick to your profound quest. It's well worth the commitment and time it takes.
The card in the Long-term Potential position points to unknowns still taking shape. It is the "wild card" yet to be played.   
TheHermit in this position suggests that the line of inquiry you arefollowing has great long term potential. Perhaps you are pursuing apassionate study or a spiritual quest. Any path of mastery will consumemajor blocks of time and energy. You may be old and gray by the timeyou answer the questions you are posing.
The pursuit of theanswers will lead you through profound life-changing experiences. Whenyou make the commitment to this path, others will support you out ofrespect. Your inner crone or shaman is getting ready to take her placein the seat of leadership and right use of power. Don't decline theinvitation. Wrap your dignity around you and step up to the challenge.
建议：
Page of Cups
Make yourself fully available for whatever is needed.
The card in the Advice position suggests a course of action which will harmonize what you want with what is currently possible.      
ThePage of Cups (in some decks, a Princess) in this position advises youto study the best ways to be of service. Strive to discern what wouldgive more pleasure, comfort and emotional security, then provide it.Take care to understand that what is happening has little or nothing todo with you personally. The best you can do is to offer support andlisten closely.
Make sure you understand what is needed. Servethe situation with an attitude of reverence. Look at individuals aroundyou as the embodiment of the Divine, and try to fulfill each one'sneeds. Be unconcerned with the outcome. Later you will understand whyyou needed to be in this position.

同友：
Eight of Wands
Trusted allies carry on your work while you pursue new opportunities.
The card in the Allies position points to people who can be supportive or helpful to you at this time.   
TheEight of Wands in this position suggests a need to gather people to youwho are responsible, trustworthy and committed and have stamina thatmatches your own. Your creativity and capability can draw numerousopportunities to you, and you want to engage in some of them withoutlosing your momentum.
With your allies in your camp, you cantake a break from your present work and start something new, knowingthe continuity of your efforts will not be lost.

阻碍： Ace of Cups
Ask yourself why you feel unworthy of the harmony and benevolence that you need and are abundantly available to you.
Thecard in the Blocks position points to self-undermining tendencies,areas where you could be in denial, where you could get stuck -- unlessyou examine yourself and make some corrections.
When the Ace of Cups is in this position, you arestruggling with a belief that there is not enough approval to goaround. You have internalized the conviction that someone has to dowithout. Apparently you think that person is you.
Although theAce of Cups traditionally represents the fountain of love, abundance,and affirmation, times of considerable deprivation cause us believe weare unworthy of receiving divine love or the love of others.Aggressively question your feelings of inner guilt and shame. They arepreventing divine, beneficent, universal love from pouring down uponyou as it does upon everyone else. Why separate yourself from it at atime when you need it so much?

[ 本帖最后由 多麗絲 于 21-6-2008 01:22 PM 编辑 ]

edenskim

回来家
必看的贴之一...

那照片
艺术的角度 pic 9
广告的角度 pic 1
男人的角度 pic 7

多麗絲

回 伊甸，

喔喔，回家吼，新加坡那里安顿好了么？
呵呵，欢迎回来。

多麗絲