夕夕 丽鹿 糸糸 II - 前一部的延续篇

disneykcland

至 多丽丝
原来那张网是你的，真是见笑了.
是罗开吗？我还以为是高达呢，哈哈.
还没有时间去阅览你的故事，全部.
相信搭罗的答案，也为你感到欣慰，
虽然与你只是萍水相逢，
幸福

多麗絲

从礼拜三开始到昨天，连续每天下班之后都躲进乌漆抹黑的电影院里。
看The Happening
看Kungfu Panda
看The Incredible Hulk
还没写观后感之前，先简约说说好不好看。

The Happening           - =.=
Kungfu Panda            - ~^_^~
The Incredible Hulk     - ^_^

注：=.=    等于 纳闷
   ~^_^~  等于 笑到飚泪
    ^_^   等于 ok看



回  迪斯尼

呵呵，请常来啊！

angelku27

多姐姐，我好久没溜进来了……
最近可好？

一进来就看到你的介绍，我也去玩那塔罗牌了。

玄到不行。
我问感情问题……
它就给我这个：

The Lovers

Briefly: If you are unattached and you dealout this card, you are being guided towards that special someone who isabout to walk through the doorway of your heart and leave its indeliblemark on you forever. The Lovers card always brings choices. Love is thestrongest emotion we know and it can literally move mountains. Thedesire to be with your special person can overwhelm you and overrideall logic or other sense of clarity.

Full Reading: This is the most powerful card in the pack for many andvaried reasons. Love is the strongest emotion we know and it canliterally move mountains. The desire to be with your special person canoverwhelm you and override all logic or other sense of clarity.However, if you are ever going to experience true love, then you may aswell feel it with every part of your being. If you are unattached andyou deal out this card, you are being guided towards that specialsomeone who is about to walk through the doorway of your heart andleave its indelible mark on you forever. You will feel the bloodrushing through your veins and the passion and desire to be with yourlover so deliriously wonderful, that all else pales in comparison. Thismay be your soul mate, your one true love of your life, so make sureyou are there and you are ready. If you are already in a relationship,another passing attraction may cause a disturbance in your feelings andyou may be swayed to have a secret liaison. The Lovers card alwaysbrings choices. You can choose to love, or choose not to love. If youfind yourself in a triangle situation, at some stage you will have tomake your final choice. This card can also symbolise that yourcreativity is developing and you could start to produce some greatworks, whether that be a painting, a song, a poem or even beautiful newfurnishings for your home such as curtains, tapestries etc. Theemphasis will be on elegance and pure luxury.



好像是好牌。
开心一下。



Page of Cups
The picture on this card is of a youngishperson, who is often male, though this can indicate a female. He iscolourfully dressed and wears a hat and some plumage in it. He carriessome red flowers, and a cup with a fish jumping about in it. He lookscontent and yet very innocent. He could be about to embark on a newcareer or had just graduated from college, university or from lawschool. He is clean shaven, either blue or black eyes and has lovelysleek hair. He loves to wear bright coloured clothing which reflectshis warmth and compassion for others. If you draw this card and theperson is yourself, you may discover some new career direction thatwill lead you towards prosperity. If it is someone else, they couldbecome very important to you, either by becoming your new best friend,or your lover or husband/wife. This person is also highly sensitive andshould therefore only mix with people who are positive andenthusiastic. There may also be some special occasion coming up whereyou have to put on your best threads.



这个好像也是好牌。
开心两下。

多麗絲

回  天使

对啊对啊，你好久好久都没来了。
刚开msn，看见你，在想：要表聊一下，按我的生活楼，见鬼，就看见你的帖了。

你有没有乖？
呵呵，久久没来，一来就开心两下。
要常来啦你~知道没有？

多麗絲

继上次的日本名字搜索之后，感谢欣仪同邪的盛情，这里又有另外一个名字搜索。


中国民间名字搜索根據陽曆（西曆）生日中月份： 1長　2栓　3大　4來　5狗　6守 7傻　8福　9屎　10二　11胖　12臭
根據生日中具體日期：   1娟　2妮　 3腿 　4娣 　5球 　6坑 　7年 　8歲 　9娃　10毛 11剩　12姑　13英　14妹　15肥　16霞　17狗　18虎　19花　20鳳 21定　21村　22蛋　23妞　24牛　25木　26翠　27愛　28財　29石 30美麗　31發

多麗絲

第一遭用DC拍人像照。
完全设手动。
好玩。
但是，好累...
(七早八早起来，当然累啦~)

多麗絲

叹为观止！

多麗絲

全新的一周伊始，我给自己一个好的冲刺！（请注意内容，跟The Secrets有异曲同工之妙）

How to Set Sales Goals that Work

Why is S.M.A.R.T. Dumb?

If we don’t set goals at all, we tend to just get whatever is dished up to us. The trouble is, most people don’t set goals well, and still end up not achieving their personal and professional dreams.

But it gets worse than this, because goal setting has a “dark side” too. When people experience failure of their goal setting activities, it doesn’t just mean a waste of time, it also means experiencing a sense of failure and disappointment that can end up making you feel cynical about even having dreams.

Up till fairly recently, the best goal setting tool we had was the S.M.A.R.T. routine, which essentially meant considering our goal in the contexts of:

Specificity Measurability Attainability Reward-Potential Timeframe This was better than anything else we had at the time, but didn’t go nearly far enough because it left pitfalls and loopholes galore. S.M.A.R.T. failed to:

• Fully examine the consequences of getting or not getting your goal. It left key motivating factors, both for and against getting your goal, hidden and unexamined.
• Examine specificity rigorously enough, or measure rigorously enough. S.M.A.R.T. lacked understanding of the way each of our sensory systems tracks and recognizes goals.
• Understand the difference between a goal you have control over and a goal which you do not.
• Examine the resources required to reach your goal, which you might not have or be able to obtain.
• Examine the costs of achieving the goal, which might be too high to pay.
• Examine beliefs around the goal that could trip you up.
• Examine how the goal was or was not congruent with other goals, or with your guiding principles or values.
• Test the goal for “comfortable fit”.
• Skillfully install the goal as an unconscious target By attending to each of these points, we arrive at a much a smarter alternative to SMART! We go beyond “goal setting” to “goal getting”! This is the process we work through with every single one of our sales training advanced students. It owes much to the NLP concept of “Well-formedness”, but NLP graduates will notice that we take even this, much further, and find the holes and traps with a goal and quite literally “failproof” it!!

Correct Focus You must get very clear on what it is you actually do want. Take the time to write, in positive language the selling goal you want, and write this in present tense, positive language (so you are not using “absence of the negative” type language.)

This step can be quite a challenge to the majority of people who are in fact negatively motivated (motivated more by a desire to avoid pain, rather than a wish for reward).

A helpful analogy I often use to demonstrate just how the mind has a tendency to automatically create behaviour which matches our particular mental focus, is the one of the person learning to steer a bike or a car. Most people have had at least one of these experiences and should identify with this scenario:

When you were first learning to drive or ride, if you “tried” to keep off the edge of road, your car or bike seems to be magnetically attracted to it. It you “tried” to avoid the pot hole, again, your vehicle seemed magnetically attracted to it.

Your mind was on the thing to be avoided. Incredibly, your brain then directed literally thousands of muscle fibres, without your conscious awareness, to take you to the thing you were wishing to avoid.

The trick to being able to stay on the right part of the road was to line up some part of your vehicle with the centre line, or with the edge, and keep your focus on the visual gap, or match, that you were creating. Not on the edge, or on the centre, but on the gap or on the match. Then it became easy to control, and soon it became totally unconscious. No effort whatsoever to just “sit on the right spot”.

This is how the brain works. If you want to go in a certain direction, you must focus on that, NOT on what you don’t want. Once you’ve “practised” conscious awareness of a certain thing, just like the “driving” phenomenon, you start to “forget” about it but your unconscious mind takes over and automatically keeps you “sitting on the ‘right’ spot”.

Can you see that this incredible process is actually a two-edged sword? What about all the unwanted things you’ve focussed on in the past, that your brain now might be automatically taking you toward, and you don’t even realise that’s what’s happening? This is a great explanation for the seeming self sabotage that so many people play out.

Literally, our brains are teleological in nature. The very design of your brain, automatically directing you to whatever you’ve been focussing on, is what gives you the success or otherwise that you experience.

Motivation styles also come into play, but this basic fact of brain function remains the same.

Know the Real Reason You Want this Goal This is the “why” of the goal and needs to be stated in a way that really “gets” you at an emotional level. If you can’t access this, then your goal is going to be tough work because you simply don’t have the emotional energy to sustain you as you drive toward it.

For example, as I mentioned above, a lot of people are motivated in “away from” fashion. This means they are galvanised to focus on a goal, to take action to move toward that goal, because they want to avoid pain. They’re not doing it because they want the reward; they’re doing it mainly because they fear the alternative!

Unlike people who go for goals purely for reward, these people have twin foci. Instead of dealing with the fear (which is possible) some NLP trainers try to build up their fear, with the aim of building up the motivating pressures to take action. (I’ve done this myself when I didn’t know better.) What happens is that the person is highly likely to get their goal, but with a whole lot of pain thrown in. After all, they’ve been focussing on that too!

A far better course of action would be to get expert help from a competent behavioural therapist in order to firstly deal with the “no pain no gain” and self-esteem rubbish that may be running, and then to deal with the fear that has been underpinning this person’s entire life.

There is a better, cleaner, more efficient way to get goals!

Describe the Achievement of Your Goal in Sensory-specific Terms What will constitute the proof that you have your goal? What will be the evidence of your own eyes, ears, touch, smell and even taste that undeniably prove that you have your goal?

Can you describe the achievement of the goal in all sensory representational systems (sights, sounds, feelings, smells, tastes)? What sensory representational systems of others would inform them that you had achieved this goal? In other words, what sights, sounds, feelings, smells and tastes would provide you, and everyone around you, with undeniable evidence that you had got your goal?

Make Sure You Can Prove that the Goal Can Be Self-Fulfilled

Your goal must be self-fulfilled - not rely on others’ contributions, and not subject to events outside your control. What are the resources, personal and otherwise, that must be brought to the process? Is it feasible that you can gather those resources in the time planned?

Make Sure You Are Willing to Pay the Costs and Bear the Consequences of Getting the Goal Honestly evaluate the costs and effects of achieving the goal. What will having the goal get for me? What will having the goal lose for me? What will not having the goal get for me? What will not having the goal lose for me?

Make Sure Your Goal is in Alignment With Other Goals, and with Your Values and Guiding Principles If your goal clashes with other goals, or if it is counter to your values and the principles that you live by, you will find yourself effortlessly sabotaging it!

Check Fantastical Thinking I know you might not like this term and some people complain I should just say “fantastic” thinking, or “illogical” thinking. I like the word “fantastical” because I think it conveys the “fantasy” aspect just the way I wish.

Fantastical thinking in relation to goal setting refers to fairy-tale-like beliefs about current or future events. This is the imaginary cause/effect link that we make between our goal and other events.

Point out to your team that goal consequences should not contain fantastical thinking. For example, someone who wants to increase their commissions may be thinking “When I earn more I will take that trip I’ve been wanting”, “When I earn more I’ll go for that promotion”, “When earn more I’ll find a man/woman who will love me and want to marry me”. Maybe, maybe not. One doesn’t necessarily mean the other, and those outcomes can be achieved without earning more. People who earn less do these things, have these experiences, also, and if this person hasn’t already done these things, it’s possible that there are a lot of other things stopping them than merely their earning level.

It’s the same with confidence and charisma. If we say “When I’m confident I’ll be a brilliant public speaker and everyone will love me” these things don’t necessarily go together. They can be quite independent of one another. As you know, there have been plenty of brilliant and popular public speakers who were nevertheless painfully shy and lacking confidence. Conversely, there are plenty of very confident people who are as boring as hell to listen to.

Get your team members to respectfully challenge each other on “consequences”. This is important because fantastical thinking can very much get in the way of goal clarity, and therefore get in the way of successful acquisition. Fantastical thinking may also indicate self sabotage and if that’s the case they want to know about it, and deal with it, so that nothing stands in their way.

Check Fears of Consequences Certainly the changes we make are not always easy for loved ones, friends or even colleagues. Even we ourselves may feel overwhelmed by positive change that occurs quickly.

I think the much-revered family therapist Virginia Satir (on whose work much of NLP is based) put it best when she described groups of human beings as systems “much like a mobile you might hang above a baby’s crib”. Satir said that when an individual changes it is like jiggling one piece of the mobile out of its customary position. When that happens the rest of the pieces jiggle about madly, trying to find equilibrium. But the system only has so much energy, and eventually it wears out and the whole thing comes to rest. It comes to rest around the piece which changed. According to the laws of physics, nothing else is possible.

Human systems aren’t like that 100% of the time. We’re a little more unpredictable, so for us it’s more like 99.9999999%. So sometimes a piece of the mobile (like an employee, a partner or a friend) actually cannot or will not make the change and there is a parting. However probably something like 99.9999999% of the time they make a positive change with us (even if that takes a while) and they stay, and the “system” is a lot better for it.

Do take time to think about and identify any fears you may have about the consequences of getting your goal.

Beliefs/Doubts Do you totally believe you can achieve this goal safely and comfortably? Or is there some doubt or fear around reaching for this goal or actually achieving it?

Usually we find that the goal is not totally congruent with who we are or what we believe, otherwise we’d probably have just gone out and done it! The problem is that the things that could be holding us back are mostly unconscious - so how do we discover them and deal with them?

The key is to be found in your own body and the best way to use that key is to first get into the most comfortable state you can (note, not necessarily relaxed, but quite alert in a highly comfortable way). Use an actual memory of an occasion where you actually felt quite comfortably alert and relive it now, carefully noting how you feel physically, in your face, chest, back, stomach, legs, hands.

As a contrast, imagine going through the steps to achieve your goal, as well as what it would truly be like to be achieving that goal. What differences do you note in your body as you experience that? If you feel tightness or tension where previously you felt quite “smooth” or comfortable, this could indicate fear or doubt. Or maybe it merely indicates excitement. Is it a nervous feeling, or an excited feeling?

There are now the most highly-effective techniques which you may use to deal with these subconscious blocks so that they cease being triggered as you move toward your goal. It is possible you might need help to refine your use of these techniques so that you more easily get the outcome you want. There is an excellent book called “Rapid Techniques for Self Help” which encapsulate 6 of the best available techniques for self use.

来源：HOW TO SET SALES GOALS THAT WORK

卓欣仪

今天蛮想一个人去看场电影的
可是不知道要看什么好

肚子好痛
阿姨来了

多麗絲

你看了功夫熊猫么？
一个人看也很不错。
记得要待到后面制作班底名单之后，因为还有东西看。

看The Incredible Hulk也ok.

p/s: 跑去看5点以前的戏，RM6而已。

多麗絲

这是新尝试。
没有故事性的人像拍摄。
第一次说~

用DC拍的 (Canon SX-100)
全程都用手动。

其他的，请到 Feelings & Wings 之 Profound Silence (持续更新中）

[ 本帖最后由 多麗絲 于 16-6-2008 02:44 PM 编辑 ]

多麗絲

我个人蛮喜欢的一张。

多麗絲

Failure is the Line of Least Persistence

There likely will be setbacks and occasional self-doubts on the road to maximizing your charisma. You're going to need patience and persistence. But it's important to keep moving toward your goal.

I'm reminded of a friend who had a life-changing experience in a cross-country ski race in Minnesota. He had moved there not long before. In an enthusiastic, if not realistic, effort to adapt to the local culture, he bought some skis, practiced a bit, and entered an advanced competition. He took off like a flash at the sound of the starter's gun. But after the first quarter-mile in near-zero temperatures, he knew he was in over his head, hopelessly outclassed by other competitors swiftly gliding past him. He was soon alone in a frozen wilderness, and his thoughts turned gloomily to fatigue and defeat.

He had initially hoped to finish in a couple of hours. But as the cold seared his lungs and the exertion weakened his arms and legs, he all but gave up on his goal. If there had been a way to surrender, he would have. But being in deep snow in the middle of the woods, his only way out was to ski out. So he pushed aside the pain and pessimism, and kept skiing.

He imagined a lodge with a roaring fire that might be just around the bend--but it wasn't. He imagined a rescue vehicle slicing through the drifts to pick him up--but it never did. He even imagined a helicopter dropping down to whisk him away--but, of course, that never materialized.

So on and on he skied until, at last, he came to a sign: FINISH LINE, 1/4 MILE. He couldn't believe it! Energized, he sprinted that last quarter mile and finished in a time not far from his original goal.

My friend often repeats that story, the winds more frigid and his muscles more aching with each retelling. It's become a part of his self-identity, and the memory of his endurance and ultimate triumph has gotten him through other of life's difficult scrapes and struggles. The moral, as he sees it, is that if you keep slogging ahead, refuse to give up, and stay as positive as you possibly can, you'll accomplish your goal, or something very close to it.

I could hardly argue with that. So even if you have trouble imagining success, keep moving along that snowy path in the woods. And before you know it, you'll have success beyond your imaginings.

来源：www.alessandra.com

卓欣仪

我不是在这里说过我看了功夫熊猫咩？？
多小姐，你可能也要补脑或眼了

结果我跑去特易购买了很多废物回来
本来只想买几样必需品
结果越买越多了

多麗絲

你6月12日讲的东西，我16号就忘了。
前后不到一个礼拜。

结论：头脑记忆短路。
原因：不详。

对不起哈~
人家说压力会让人乱七八糟。
我想也是了。
阿姨都闹我脾气，肯定是内分泌紊乱。

不能一直补、一直补。
那个black cohosh，阿姨来照吃会不会导致阿姨赖着不走？

卓欣仪

不会的。
它主要是调节功能
不是像西药那样
一种药suppress一个地方
如果你担心
一天两次就好咯
过后才一天三次
一次一粒就好

我也需要吃black cohosh了
因为阿姨来了又跑掉
不知道干嘛
我看我最近胡思乱想发挥作用了
现在阿姨也在闹脾气

多麗絲

前些日子，赫然在msn聊天的时候受到opo25的推荐下，加入了travian行列。
说实在的，我也还在摸索：到底什么这么好玩？
开垦村庄，需要伐木、掘矿、种禾、制砖。
然后用这些收成去建设，有村庄大楼、兵营、研究院、山洞、粮仓、仓库等等等。
各有各的角色要扮演，也都需要耐心地等待那些收成。

每一天耐心建设。
看着一点一点堆砌起来的村庄，到了一个程度之后别的村子会举兵来攻击、破坏。
建设被毁，又得一砖一瓦重新再造。

这是一种感慨。
如果我放弃了，村庄就这样了。
如果我一再坚持，是不是就像历劫的重建?
这是一个好学习...

卓欣仪

travian？
我也要玩！
哪里找软件？

我之前一直在玩virtual villagers
从第一玩到第三了
第三的才开始玩而已

多麗絲

收到一个这样的转寄内容：

Lotus Touts: You have 6 minutes

There's some mighty fine advice in these words, even if you're not superstitious. This Lotus Touts has been sent to you for good luck from the Anthony Robbins organization. It has been sent around the world ten times so far.

Do not keep this message.

The Lotus Touts must leave your hands in 6 MINUTES. Otherwise you will get a very unpleasant surprise. This is true, even if you are not superstitious, agnostic, or otherwise faith impaired.


ONE. Give people more than they expect and do it cheerfully. 愉悦地给他人比预期更多的付出。
TWO. Marry a man/woman you love to talk to. As you get older, their conversational skills will be as important as any other. 与你喜欢说话的对象厮守。
THREE. Don't believe all you hear, spend all you have or sleep all you want. 别相信你所听见的，做你想做的事。
FOUR. When you say, 'I love you,' mean it. 认真的表达“我爱你”。
FIVE. When you say, 'I'm sorry,' look the person in the eye. 道歉的时候，别忘了真切地看着对方的双眼。
SIX. Be engaged at least six months before you get married. 先订婚6个月以上才决定结婚。
SEVEN. Believe in love at first sight. 相信第一眼的感觉。
EIGHT. Never laugh at anyone's dreams. People who don't have dreams don't have much. 别耻笑别人的梦想，一个没有梦想的人可说什么都没有。
NINE. Love deeply and passionately. You might get hurt but it's the only way to live life completely. 真恳地爱人，即使受伤也算认真地活过。
TEN.. In disagreements, fight fairly. No name calling. 任何意见分歧出现时，请问和地商讨，别指名道姓。
ELEVEN. Don't judge people by their relatives. 别以亲戚来评断一个人。
TWELVE. Talk slowly but think quickly. 慢说快想。
THIRTEEN! ... When someone asks you a question you don't want to answer, smile and ask, 'Why do you want to know?'对于不想回答的问题，请微笑说：“为什么你想知道呢？”
FOURTEEN. Remember that great love and great achievements involve great risk.请记住：伟大的事情总是伴随着极大的挑战。
FIFTEEN. Say 'bless you' when you hear someone sneeze.当别人打喷嚏的时候轻声说“祝福你”。
SIXTEEN. When you lose, don't lose the lesson.失败的时候，别忘了连教训也失去了。
SEVENTEEN. Remember the three R's: Respect for self; Respect for others; and Responsibility for all your actions. 记得：尊重自己、尊重他人、为自己的所有行为负责。
EIGHTEEN. Don't let a little dispute injure a great friendship.别让小事情破坏了感情。
NINETEEN. When you realize you've made a mistake, take immediate steps to correct it. 当你发现自己做错的时候，请马上改正。
TWENTY. Smile when picking up the phone. The caller will hear it in your voice. 微笑地接电话，对方会听见的。
TWENTY- ONE. Spend some time alone. 偶尔给自己独处的时间与空间。

Now, here's the FUN part!

Send this to at least 5 people and your life will improve.


呵，我自己看了感觉还不错...

多麗絲

travian的村庄，被人家砸得稀巴烂，所有的建设都被夷为平地。
昨晚看宫崎峻的一部卡通，该是2004年的作品。
买了很久，这才看。纳闷的是：竟然是戏院版本。教训：以后买光碟，记得回家就试看。

击垮人家来凸显自己的强大？

人性，不过如此...